Learning to say “No”

I am grateful that God is my strength and that He gives me strength to be firm in Truth. I have a tendency to want to please everyone and to help everyone. It is difficult for me to say no.

Friends asked me for a favor and I was happy to help as always. But then every few days they asked for something more, and I was starting to feel uneasy about it. The whole thing started to consume me so much, that I reached out to my practitioner. I had a feeling already what I should do, but there was that hinderance to say no. Through talking to my practitioner, I became more firm. I had a conversation with my friends, and told them clearly what I can do for them and what not. And – they were happy about it. It was not a problem for them.

Through this experience, I learned that when this annoyed and unrestful feeling takes a hold of me, it doesn’t help to be annoyed. But it is a sign that something is not right. This something is animal magnetism, it is not a person, it was not my friends. It was animal magnetism taking a hold of them and of me. I learned, instead of getting annoyed I better listen for God’s guidance. I saw, that I can receive and feel within me the answer from God (the universal good and right) regarding any problem, when I stop letting animal magnetism, in the form of annoyance take a hold of me.

I happily told my practitioner the outcome, and her comment helped me to learn something more. She said: “I know it is not always easy to say no, but when we don’t obey God and act with Principle and that uneasy painful annoyed feeling that comes over is definitely not worth it!” Through her words, I understood, it is obedience to the laws of God that gives us the only true peace. Without the pain. This is true freedom, I felt.